What Brett Kavanaugh Reveals About Us

What gets exposed isn’t pretty.

Less than a month ago, the nation was riveted to the confirmation hearing of Brett Kavanaugh and the sexual assault allegations leveled against him. We listened to Christine Blasey Ford share her story under duress and heard his angry and emotional denials. We collectively struggled with the question: “Who is telling the truth? The woman or the man?”

Kavanaugh’s confirmation hearing was eerily parallel to the 1991 confirmation hearing of Clarence Thomas and the accusations against him brought by Anita Hill. Ms. Hill claimed that Thomas—her boss ten years earlier—had sexually harassed her multiple times. He angrily denied it, calling the allegation a “high-tech lynching”. The same question was asked: “Who is telling the truth? The woman or the man?”

In both situations, the men prevailed. Brett Kavanaugh was confirmed and now sits on the Supreme Court. So was Clarence Thomas. But the question, “Who was telling the truth?” still lingers.

The fact that the men—separated by 25+ years—survived their confirmation process in spite of allegations of non-consensual sexual advances reveals that not much has changed despite the #metoo movement. The testimony of men when denying allegations of sexual assault, harassment or abuse of power is still more believable than the testimony of the women who come forward with the allegations. People—both men and women—will still default to protecting the reputations of men while dragging women through the dirt, questioning their motives and morals—especially when political power is at stake.

Why is this? Is it rooted in our justice system and the presumption of innocence? Maybe. But even when multiple women allege the same or similar acts, politically powerful men tend to prevail. Anita Hill had corroborating witnesses—though they were never called to testify. Other women echoed Christine Blasey Ford’s story, but they were never interviewed by the FBI. Having multiple accusations from multiple women made no difference. To answer the question of who we believe and why, we must go deeper than legal due process.

In this situation, the most obvious answer is politics. We believe the people we think will further our own political agenda. And we will publicly shame and humiliate those we perceive as a threat to attaining our goals. The bottom line is that our political goals trump our concern for truth. (The pun was not intended, but it does seem appropriate.) We witnessed the same phenomena when Juanita Brodderick made allegations of a 1978 sexual assault against Bill Clinton. People believed (or disbelieved) her story according to their political alignment. Honestly, we don’t care about the people involved or what happened to them, we only care about the outcome. We will excuse bad—even illegal—behavior if we believe it is in our political interests and we will accuse people of lies—even if they are telling the truth—for the sake of gaining or keeping power. This is true whether a person is conservative or liberal, Republican or Democrat. Sadly, it is also true whether a person identifies as a Christian or an atheist.

But there is another answer to the question that is unrelated to politics but must be addressed. We must take an honest look at the foundation of our social order: patriarchy and its metanarrative of male superiority.

Under the assumptions of patriarchy, mens’ words are always more believable, mens’ reputations are always more valuable, mens’ actions are always more justifiable, and mens’ behavior is always more easily excused.  Under the codes of male superiority, men have the right – even the obligation – to dominate and control all those who are inferior to them. When the patriarchal order of male preference is embedded in the culture, boys grow up believing they are entitled to take whatever they perceive to be rightfully theirs—including the bodies of girls—and use them as they see fit.

In addition, patriarchy justifies male sexual aggression as evidence of masculinity. A culture built upon patriarchy implicitly encourages boys and men to act aggressively through sexual harassment, voyeurism and sexual assault, and dismisses the destructive results with winking phrases like “boys will be boys.” It is patriarchal culture that allowed Bill Cosby to drug women for decades to have sex with them, enabled Harvey Weinstein to use his position to lure women into compromising situations, and a gave our current president the freedom to boast that he could do whatever he wanted to a woman with impunity.

One need only to watch the products of our entertainment industry (controlled primarily by men) to see that male sexual aggression is treated lightly, as boys being “goofy” and having “fun”.  For instance, the 1980’s classic romantic comedy, “Sixteen Candles,” depicted the sexual assault of an intoxicated teenage girl as a “funny” rite of passage for a teen male character. Generations of boys have grown up with the message that male sexual aggression proves their manliness and initiating sexual acts—both consensual and non-consensual—is their birthright.

Brett Kavanaugh and Clarence Thomas are embedded in – and are products of –  patriarchy and male superiority and the rape culture it spawns. Christine Blasey Ford and Anita Hill, also embedded in the same patriarchal system, understand the rules and their place in the hierarchy. Their stories are not believable—no matter how many corroborating stories are told about the same person. Their motives are suspect—no matter how much proof they have. Their morals are lax—no matter how upright their character and behavior. Patriarchy assumes female inferiority and by extension, female guilt. Women must prove their innocence beyond the shadow of a doubt. And because insistence of innocence only reinforces the assumption of guilt, women have learned to remain silent.

The more the toxic patriarchal metanarrative of male superiority is repeated, the more difficult it is to challenge and change it. Despite the rise of the #metoo movement and recent shifts in our culture that have begun to hold men responsible for inappropriate and unwanted sexual aggression, the foundation of patriarchy and the metanarrative of male superiority remains deeply embedded in our culture. And, unfortunately, it continues to be buttressed by religion—especially Christianity.

The church (led by men) has historically affirmed the metanarrative of male superiority and female inferiority and weakness using the stories of the Bible—especially the stories of creation and the Fall. And in doing so, the church has reinforced the structures and rules of patriarchy and disempowered women—dooming them to a second-class existence under the dominance of men.

For example, on the basis of Genesis 2, the man is created first, the woman second. The woman is created to be a servant to the man. The “created order” affirms female place within God’s hierarchy. Genesis 3 and the story of the entrance of sin into the world continues to affirm male domination and female subservience. Male rule over females is declared to be God’s will (“your husband shall rule over you”) rather than a description of the outworking of sin. And the fact that “the woman was deceived and led the man into wrongdoing” affirms that women by nature lack sound moral and spiritual judgement, and men must always protect themselves (and the integrity of the social order) by taking charge of decision making and leading as the “head” of the household. Because the man’s sin was that he “listened to his wife,” men must always be on guard against becoming a victim of female lies, distortion and cunning by keeping women silent.

The writer of the book Proverbs warns his son to avoid becoming the victim of the “wayward woman” who is out to trap him (Sound familiar?). Samson (the hero of faith who couldn’t seem to keep his penis in his pants) is the victim of the manipulative and duplicitous Delilah, the predator who is out to destroy him (sound familiar?). The story of a power obsessed woman, Jezebel, who leads the nation of Israel into idolatry and sin sounds a warning: Beware of women seeking political power (sound familiar?). While there are stories of godly female leaders sprinkled through the Hebrew Scriptures such as Deborah and Hulda, they are treated as aberrations to the patriarchal norm—as a second best option in the absence of a preferred man.

The problem with the theological doctrine of male superiority that serves as the support structure for patriarchy is that it nullifies the good news of Jesus Christ, who by his acts and teaching restored women to their rightful place as equal partners and co-laborers. For instance, Jesus refused to reprimand Mary for sitting at his feet along side with the other disciples as their equal. The doctrine of male primacy and rule also undermines the good news that through the resurrection of Christ, the curse associated with sin has been reversed and a new creation has begun—a new creation where gender hierarchy is voided (Galatians 3:28) and both sons and daughters prophesy (Acts 2:17), proclaiming the truth.

Ove these weeks, I have wondered how Jesus would answer the question, “Who is telling the truth?”  While it is always presumptive to put words into Jesus’ mouth, I actually don’t believe he would answer the question.  I believe he would ask us questions that reveal the truth about us.

  • Why do you prefer political power over the truth?  
  • Why do you use (or better, misuse) the Word of God to preserve a patriarchal system that denies women’s voices and women’s pain?  
  • Why do you strip women of their God-given dignity and their rightful place as equal partners?  
  • Why are you more concerned about your sons being the victims of false accusations than with your daughters being the victims of sexual assault? 

I also believe Jesus would issue a warning:  Unless you renounce your idolatry of patriarchy and the false doctrine of male superiority, you are condemning your sons to repeat the sins of their fathers and condemning your daughters to bear the pain of their mothers.  

God help us.

My Online Life Begins

I process through writing.  I’ve written essays, children’s stories, sermons and poetry.  I’ve published a number of them on my church’s blog and shared them via Facebook.  But this blog is for my personal thoughts on a wide range of topics filtered through my Christian faith.  It is my tongue, fired up with a passion for Christ, justice, life and peace. It is my voice. While the opinions I express may reflect the view of many people within my  congregation, this blog does not express the official positions of Kimball Avenue United Church of Christ and Nuestra Señora De Las Americas Episcopal Church on any topic.

If you choose to follow along, my hope is that you will be challenged to think, to see the world through a new perspective and to open yourself to what the Spirit may reveal.  You may not agree with everything you read, and that is fine.  But since we only grow through dialogue, I hope you will consider the contents, interact with it and respectfully express your thoughts. It is my prayer that, together, we will experience the abundance of life God promises.

Pentecost, Prophets and Passion

Yesterday was Pentecost.  We sang, “Holy Spirit, rain down!” We prayed, “Your kingdom come, your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.” And, thanks to one of our teens, we heard the voice of Archbishop Oscar Romero.

It helps, now and then, to step back and take a long view.

The kingdom is not only beyond our efforts,
it is even beyond our vision.

We accomplish in our lifetime only a tiny fraction
of the magnificent enterprise that is God’s work.
Nothing we do is complete, which is a way of saying
that the kingdom always lies beyond us.
No statement says all that could be said.
No prayer fully expresses our faith.
No confession brings perfection.
No pastoral visit brings wholeness.
No program accomplishes the church’s mission.
No set of goals and objectives includes everything.

This is what we are about.
We plant the seeds that one day will grow.
We water seeds already planted,
knowing that they hold future promise.

We lay foundations that will need further development.
We provide yeast that produces far beyond our capabilities.

We cannot do everything, and there is a sense of liberation
in realizing that. This enables us to do something,
and to do it very well. It may be incomplete,
but it is a beginning, a step along the way,
an opportunity for the Lord’s grace to enter and do the rest.

We may never see the end results, but that is the difference
between the master builder and the worker.

We are workers, not master builders; ministers, not messiahs.
We are prophets of a future not our own.

Today, people across this country are rising up as part of the Poor People’s Campaign to call America to a Moral Revival–a revival of desire for the paths of life.  Together, we say “Enough!” to all that denies and destroys life.  “Enough” to systemic racism!  “Enough” to violence perpetrated against communities of color! “Enough” to unequal education and unlivable wages!  Today, we are prophets of a future not our own.

So, in the words of William Mackay, “Revive us again! Fill each heart with Thy love! May each soul be rekindled with fire from above!”

For too long, we have been asking for the wrong thing!  Instead of seeking to make America great again, we need to ask God to revive us again. Yes, Lord, Let the fire fall.  Let the fire burn away the fruitless and worthless stubble that we cling to as if it were precious stones.  Let the fire burn away the destructive, life-choking thorns of racism, greed and violence that have taken root in our hearts.  And burn into us a passion for God’s love, shalom and justice.

50 Years Later…

A reflection on the 50th Anniversary of the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

50 years later…

We honor the one

Who dared to dream in the nightmare of US,

And shook the foundations until he was crushed.

And some will point to all the things that have changed

For the better.  See how existence is now re-arranged?

A Black Middle Class and Black College grads,

Black CEOs who live with the haves.

And if that weren’t proof that we’ve got civil rights—

We chose a Black president—not just once, but twice!

Who could have imagined that 50 years in the past?

 

50 years later…

We honor the one

Who dared to dream in the nightmare of US,

And shook the foundations until he was crushed.

And some will point to all the things that have changed

For the worse.  See how subsistence has still been maintained?

The Brothers with the insolence to be black and armed

with Skittles and cell phones; just asking for harm.

Almost three thousand since poor Michael Brown

Like Freddy Gray and Eric Garner, squashed to the ground;

Philando Castile, Oscar Grant, Stephon Clark,

Walter Scott, Laquan McDonald,  Tamir Rice, in a park.

Just Like Fred Hampton and young Emmitt Till

Or the targets of Daley who said, “Shoot to kill!”

Murdered by those protected in blue,

Sworn to serve and protect.  Tell me, who?

The Sisters are not exempt from this fate, pushed over the edge by a cop on her tail.

The Children are labeled and destined to be squeezed through a pipeline that leads straight to jail,

And left there to rot in an 8 by 6 cell.

They’re not six feet under, but they might just as well.

The Families re-segregated by hidden agenda

That’s advanced and enforced by policy addenda.

And what right to vote?  With 5 of 9 approval,

States now reinstate thanks to Section 4 removal.

Who would have imagined, ‘cept one woke to the past?

 

50 years later…

We honor the one

Who dared to dream in the nightmare of US,

And shook the foundations until he was crushed.

Remember the Dreamer, but do not dwell there;

For the nightmare of US remains the hell, where

New dreamers arise on an old enterprise

To bend the arc away from the dark;

Who can imagine the change that will come to pass

“Holy & Whole” – Day 40

Here we are, coming to the end of our Lenten Journey.  We have taken stock of the words we use as to whether they kill or heal.  We have looked at the toxicity of our culture that poisons our minds and our spirits with stress, anxiety, fear. We have identified the demons that possess our nation, that hold us captive and that devalue and destroy the lives of the most vulnerable.  And we have heard the words of hope.  God has given us everything we need for life and godliness.  God has built into creation the antidote for our distress.  God has formed us into a community of wellness.  God wills “Shalom” for God’s creation.

A new day is on the horizon.  Through the life, death and resurrection of Jesus, we see God’s new creation.  Chains are broken. The sick are healed.  The dead are raised. The lame walk. The blind see.  ALL God’s children experience abundant life.

Tomorrow, our Lenten Fast will end, but our journey toward life will continue.  I pray that you will continue to resist the devil and take your stand against the powers of injustice and systems of death.  I pray that you will continue to renounce the old words that kill the spirit and the old ways that destroy life.  I pray that your minds will be continually renewed and your lives be continually transformed into the likeness of Christ.

“Now may the God who makes everything holy and whole, make you holy and whole, put you together spirit, soul, and body, and keep you fit for the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Amen.

From 1 Thessalonians 5:23 (The Message)

 

“Holy and Whole” – Day 39

The End.

There is a 12th Century tradition for Good Friday called Tenebrae.  The service begins with 15 lit candles.  The tallest candle is the Christ Candle.  As the story of Jesus’ trial and crucifixion are read, the candles are snuffed out one by one until only the Christ candle remains.  Finally, the story is told of Jesus’ death and burial and the Christ candle is also snuffed out.  The end.

The death of a loved one — spouse, child, parent — is THE most stressful life-event a person experiences.  Tragic death often leads to deep depression and suicidal thoughts. One can only imagine the mental state of Mary as she watched her son be executed unjustly.   One can only imagine the grief of Mary Magdalene or of John, the disciple Jesus loved.  They had lost their light.  They descended into the grave with Jesus.  There was nothing more.  Imagine.  The end.

Maybe you don’t need to imagine.  Maybe you have experienced this kind of grief and pain.  But if you have not experienced this kind of grief, try to imagine.  Imagine the mothers who have watched the video of their unarmed sons or daughters being shot by police.  Imagine the students who have watched their friends be gunned down in school.  Imagine the children who have watched fathers be arrested and deported by ICE.  These are today’s tragic events of grief, pain and descent into darkness. . Imagine the end and linger there.

The value of lingering in the grief of tragedy (like Good Friday) is that it makes us sensitive to the pain of others, it produces within us compassion for those who have suffered deeply and it motivates us to act for justice in the face of injustice.  While you may want to rush to Sunday and the joy of Easter morning, let grief do its work in you.

 

 

“Holy & Whole” – Day 38

The Final Days

Today is Maundy (or Holy) Thursday.  Christians around the world will honor Jesus’ final meal with his disciples and will partake of the Lord’s Supper, remembering his words, “This is my body,” and “This is my blood.”  But beneath Jesus’ words that reframe Passover for his followers, there was grief and suffering.  For Jesus, this day was the beginning of the end.  The evening included betrayal by a friend, abandonment by those closest to him, denial by one of his inner circle, and ultimately rejection by those he had come to save.  In the end, he was alone, praying anxiously about the coming hours, suffering mental anguish, physical pain and inner struggle.

It is in times of deepest distress that we are alone–alone with our struggles, alone with the grief, alone with our fears and uncertainties.  Even praying is a challenge–words cannot express the depths of our pain.

The writer of Hebrews reminds us, “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who in every respect has been tested as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore approach the throne of grace with boldness, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” (Hebrews 4:15-16, NRSV)

Even if all you have are tears, Jesus understands. He has had those times too.  And God’s grace will help you get through it, just like it helped Jesus.

“Holy & Whole” – Day 37

“Falling Through the Cracks”

We have learned throughout this Lenten Compact that a sense of wellbeing begins early in life.  Early experiences of trauma have lasting effects on one’s physical, mental and spiritual development.  Early messages of rejection, incompetence, and failure become the recordings that shape one’s self-understanding.  We live in a society built upon competition and standards and the pressure to succeed.  We have accepted the “Bell Curve.”  Some will exceed and succeed; most will survive; some will fail and “fall through the cracks.”  Though we shake our heads in pity and sorrow, we seem powerless to fill the cracks.  We talk about “falling through” as if that is “just the way it is”–as if there is no other option.

But beneath the acceptance of the “Bell Curve” is an assumption that some people (and some people groups) are superior and others are inferior. In the U.S. which has been built on an assumption of White European superiority, those who fall through the cracks are most likely to be members of communities of color, non-white immigrants and those living in poverty.

A society that accepts the reality of “cracks” and the inevitability of some “falling through” is a society that is mentally ill at its core.  Racism (White superiority) is a mental illness.  Classism is a mental illness.

Is it any wonder that the U.S. has the highest prevalence of mental illness in the world?!  According to the World Health Organization, 27% of Americans will experience a mental health issue each year, and over a lifetime more than 50% will suffer a mental disorder.

Until we name the demons and cast them out, the cracks will continue to exist and we will continue to watch children “fall through them”  As people of faith, we must rise up to stand in the cracks until we can fill them with policies that better reflect God’s heart of justice and mercy.

“Holy & Whole” – Day 36

Dang! I Missed World Happiness Day!

Happy (belated) “World Happiness Day”. Yes, there is such a thing and it occurs every year on March 20–a week ago.  We don’t hear much about “World Happiness Day” in the United States–probably because we’re not very happy.

According to the World Happiness Report–a look at 156 nations on 6 key variables of wellness–income, freedom, trust, healthy life expectancy, social support and generosity–the U.S. ranks #18 in happiness in 2018.  In 2017, the U.S. ranked #14.  In part, the decline in happiness is attributed to increases in obesity, addiction and depression.

So where does Happiness live?  It has nothing to do with tropical breezes! Despite being really, really cold, Finland took the #1 spot in 2018.  Followed by Norway, Denmark, Iceland, and Switzerland.  And it isn’t just the native born who are happy.  Immigrants to these countries are happy, too.

What do all these places have in common?  A look at the internet, and you’ll find as many  answers as there are people.  However, one of the most telling factors is their economic and political equality.  While there are some families with low incomes, those families still have all the benefits and rights of the rest of the population–including free education through PhDs, universal healthcare and paid extended maternity (and paternity leave).  In Sweden, parents are given 480 days of paid leave to share.  And fathers are required to take a minimum of 90 of those days!  By comparison, the U.S. is the only industrialized nation that does NOT offer paid maternity leave.

The countries with high “Happiness” scores have systems that ensure well-being for not just the few who can afford it, but for everyone–native-born and foreign-born.  They think more about collective advancement rather than individual success.

The principles and practices sound a lot like the beloved community Jesus envisioned, when he commanded, “Love one another!”  We are often considered a “Christian Nation,” but our Happiness score would suggest we are far from it.